Do you ever have those absolutely frustrating moments with your husband? I don't, very often, unless he does what he did today. (Don't worry, I am only mentioning this because my husband is perfect and I know most men suffer from this same ailment.)
Do you ever give your husband advice, or tell him something/ some new idea and he totally shrugs you off, only to call you a week later and say "I was just talking to so and so (usually his father) and he gave the best advice." Of course, the "best" advice the father or friend gave is the exact same "terrible" advice you gave a week earlier?
MEN!
So, here is the spiel: Brandon has been complaining about sore teeth for a couple weeks now. I said, and I quote, "Brandon, you should really go to the dentist. It will only get worse, and it is better to catch it now then have to pay for a root canal." Brandon said something like, "I don't have time for the dentist. You worry too much. I'm going to take a ibuprofen and I'll be fine." Needless to say, he took an ibuprofen and he was not fine. Once again today he was complaining about tooth pain. Once again I said, I am going to call the dentist and make you an appointment. And once again he said, I don't have time and I'll take an ibuprofen.
I just got a call from Brandon and he said "I am coming home to brush my teeth, I have a dentist appointment. Tammy (his scale lady) told me it was only going to get worse and to believe her when she said it was better to take care of it now then deal with a root canal. I got to thinking she was right and so I called and made an appointment." Hmm, go figure the exact same words I had spoken not only weeks before but also hours before. Words that had been tossed by the wayside. I was so mad I wanted to scream! Brandon is lucky he is at the dentist, I have half a mind to pull his teeth out with my bare hands, I am so mad!
I'm not really that mad, just frustrated. I don't understand what makes my advice bad and the exact advice from someone else brilliant.
Because boys are dumb. They think wives over react and third parties don't care enough to freak out over nothing. It's not that he doesn't value your opinion, it's just that he knows you love him so much that maybe sometimes you might be more concerned about a situation than you ought, and he still stinks at sorting out when you are right and when you are emotional. Until he learns, I reccomend writing notes on his forehead while he sleeps.
ReplyDeleteOh how well I can relate. Especially if it is his father who suggests it. I think maybe they are so used to blocking stuff out that we say that they block out the important stuff too. Go figure.
ReplyDeleteThis is so so so true...my perfect little Jordan does this all the time...and the funny this is, he never remembers thats what I told him to do in the first place. Whenever someone gives him the advice its like he's hearing it for the first time!
ReplyDeleteThis sounds oh so familiar! Brian put me through this same anguish almost a year ago. I keep thinking the root canal would help teach him this very important lesson (listening to your wife), but not so much. Oh well. Some days are definitely better than others, though! :0)
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